My Partner Is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion, But I’m Not Sure

An unexpected pregnancy is stressful enough without having someone pressuring you to do something you may not want to do. Choosing to have an abortion is a significant physical and emotional decision.

No one can legally force you to make a choice you don’t want to make. Only you have the right to decide what’s best for you and your future.

First, Have You Confirmed Your Pregnancy?

It may seem like a strange question, but a late period and a positive pregnancy test may not be enough to know if you have a developing pregnancy. According to experts, as many as 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. Most miscarriages occur in the first 12 weeks.

It is possible to get a positive pregnancy test even after a miscarriage because it takes a woman’s body time to return to pre-pregnancy hormone levels. To confirm that your pregnancy is developing and to protect your health and safety, we recommend a limited obstetrical ultrasound.

At Anderson Pregnancy Care, we can provide a free limited ultrasound. Schedule a free and confidential appointment for a pregnancy test. If it’s positive, we’ll schedule you for the ultrasound. You’ll get the information you need to make a confident decision.

Do You Know Why Your Partner Is Pressuring You?

Many women feel pressured by their partner to have an abortion. According to one research study, pressure from others to end a pregnancy caused some women to have mental health problems afterwards.

Women all across Reddit write about the pressure they felt from their boyfriends:

“I was pressured into having an abortion, and I regret it every day.”

“Should I do what my boyfriend wants me to?”

“13 weeks pregnant and boyfriend is still pressuring me to abort.”

“Resent my boyfriend so much.”

Your partner may want you to get an abortion because he doesn’t want to be financially or physically responsible for a child.

He may not like the attention being taken away from him, or he may threaten to leave you.

Have You Considered All of Your Options?

You deserve support and the chance to review all of your options. You have three choices: have an abortion, choose to place your child for adoption, or parent your child.

Although we do not perform or refer for abortion, we’re not afraid to talk about the procedures, the side effects to expect, and the potential physical and emotional consequences. You should receive factual, medically based information so you understand the process.

We are not a licensed child-placing facility, but we can give you adoption information and referrals to reputable adoption specialists you can speak with. We can also help you if you choose to parent.

At Anderson Pregnancy Care, we offer free parenting support. You can receive free education, assistance with baby supplies, referrals to local resources, and a lot of physical and emotional support. You won’t be alone.

If you would like more information about your options or need to confirm your pregnancy with an ultrasound, please reach out to us. You can make an appointment by filling out our confidential online contact form or by calling or texting us.

Don’t let anyone pressure you to make a decision you’re not ready to make. We’re here to help you in any way possible.