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Whether you feel too old or too young to parent, don’t have the support of family or your partner, or just don’t feel ready to parent, adoption is always a loving option. Adoption today is very different from a few decades ago. Now, it’s the expectant mother or birth mother who makes all of the decisions.
Sadly, misunderstandings and myths surround adoption. It is not an easy decision, and it shouldn’t be. Let’s take a closer look at some of those misunderstandings and how placing your child for adoption could be right for you.
Misunderstanding #1: I Won’t Know Who Adopts My Child
Today, you can choose the adoptive family who will raise your child. In the past, mothers didn’t know who the adoptive parents were, but now, you select the couple and the future you hope your child will have.
By working with a licensed, reputable adoption coordinator, they will help you find the right family that meets your requirements. Do you want your child to have other siblings? Do you want them to live in the city or on a farm? What is important to you should be important to them.
Misunderstanding #2: I’ll Never See My Child Again
There are three adoption plans. Two of those plans let you build a relationship with your child and their adoptive family. You choose the plan that’s right for you:
- Open Adoption. You exchange identifying information with the adoptive family. You can communicate directly with one another by phone, email, letters, or other means.
- Semi-Open Adoption. You have contact with the adoptive family, but a third party handles all communication first. This plan provides more privacy.
- Closed Adoption. This is the one plan that doesn’t let you communicate with the adoptive family if you prefer it that way. The courts seal all records, and you have no further contact.
Misunderstanding #3: My Child Will Hate Me Because They Were Adopted
This myth is one of the reasons an open or semi-open adoption is so critical. You can personally explain to your child why you chose adoption. When they see that you placed them out of love, they will understand. As you build a relationship with them, they can see that more than one family can love them.
Misunderstanding #4: I Will Never Heal From My Decision
Adoption is not an easy choice. There is loss and grief, but by choosing a professional adoption coordinator, you can receive the counseling you need to experience healing. There are also many online groups for birth mothers who encourage one another. As your child grows and you develop a unique relationship with them, you will have peace of mind knowing you made the right choice.
Misunderstanding #5: Adoption Is Not Taking Responsibility
Often, women who choose adoption may think they are not taking responsibility for raising their child. The truth is, you are doing the most responsible thing possible for your child. You are allowing them to be raised by a couple who are ready and willing to be parents. You’re showing responsibility by recognizing you aren’t ready to parent and choosing someone else who is.
Talk With an Options Specialist at Anderson Pregnancy Care
Sometimes it helps to talk with a non-judgmental, neutral third party. We provide free, confidential options consultations. You’ll find a safe space where you can share your situation and concerns and ask questions.
Although Anderson Pregnancy Care is not a licensed child-placing agency, we can provide referrals for reputable adoption coordinators in our area. Don’t hesitate to contact us. You can call us at (864) 231-0077, text us at (864) 896-8883, or fill out our online contact form. We’re always here for you. How can we help you today?
Anderson Pregnancy Care does not perform or refer for abortion.
